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Confucius

Midlife Crisis Turned Asset

Psychologist Carl Jung identified a powerful emotional transition that happens between the ages of 40 and 60. It’s a time where one evaluates their current life, often reflecting on better times or missed opportunities. As a result, many feel a sense of urgency to make drastic changes. This leads to a turning point known as a “midlife crisis”.

This site views these upheavals not as a time of desperation, but instead as tremendous leverage for creating positive, lasting, personal change. By understanding the power of good environment, right thinking and consistent action, a midlife crisis can transform into a midlife asset.

Starting Over After 40

Not long after turning 40, I had this sudden realization. Nearly half of life is gone. Other than an older body, some pretty awesome (and not so awesome) memories were all there was to show for it. Fast food, alcohol, the lack of exercise, little to no consistent investments, noncommittal jobs and more were screaming regrets.

Is it possible to start over? Is it too late after 40? After 50? What about 60? Can I do this?

According to an article posted in Psychology Today by Beverly D. Flaxington, there is never a time it’s too late. That’s what this site is really about, and how to get there.

A Personal Story

As of the date of this “About” page, April 18th, 2023, I’m 46 years old. I’ve had many adventures, some interesting and others boring, though personally significant. A few years back, I knew I was getting older. Bouncing back from bad choices became less and less of an option. The do-anything lifestyle started to have lasting consequences.

Conduct a simple online search and you’ll quickly find that most websites are geared toward those in their 20s. “Start now, plan for your future, invest immediately and with consistency. Get that steady job. Climb the corporate ladder. Eat healthy. Keep working out. Never stop learning new skills. Understand the evolution of technology. Do all of this, and you’ll be ready for a changing world. By the time you turn 60, you’ll be set and with a small fortune.”

Great advice. Too bad no one told me or had easy access to that kind of information 20 years ago. Even worse, too bad I didn’t take responsibility early enough. It’s not like organized, successful people weren’t a thing when I was younger. I just was too busy having fun to pay attention, or to know to look for it.

So, what does someone aware of their predicament in their 40s do? Despite how “online” the world is, there aren’t that many places that give helpful advice to our demographic, per se. It’s great if you’re in your teens. Tons of excellent advice and examples to inspire. In your 40s? Not so much.

None the less, I made the decision to essentially “start over”, as best I could figure out. What’s really interesting is that it wasn’t that difficult.

I am currently working for a Fortune 100 company, earning good money, investing consistently, eating right, working out (lost a lot of weight), in the right relationship (engaged to be married) and, generally, living peacefully. I’m not a millionaire (yet), nor am I exactly living the day to day life I would like, but I’m happy, and getting more so.

Knowledge After 40 Is Like Wisdom On Steroids

My previous experiences, even the mundane or seemingly nothing events, gave me something.

My past functions, and still does, as useful tidbits. The maturity derived from the past, combined with focus of the present, helps me. This is what I mean by midlife assets instead of crisis. Once I made the decision to change my life, though challenging (breaking habits, not giving into urges, admitting mistakes, etc), these past events or missed opportunities turned into assets.

These memories have been used to make things easier…and faster.

In all that I learned, and continue to learn, it’s my desire for anyone over 40 (including those of you much younger), who want to improve their life, to understand you can change it. The really good news is that there are more ways than I originally thought. Once you get over the initial decision to make that heart felt change, the journey can be one of the best you’ll ever make.

In closing, I’ll leave you with one tip to get you started. If you’d like to experience near immediate results positively altering your life, Feng Shui is an outstanding way. I found it to be immensely powerful, though as you read through these posts, I take a more practical approach and less of a mystical one.

To get you started, check out this article I wrote about turning 40.

Happy changes and cheers.

“It’s good Feng Shui. ‘What’s that?’ ‘It’s Chinese for throwing out your crap.'”

Mike Bennett